But I guess ultimately what scares me about marriage is where do you find this person? You know a lot of times, most successful relationships, people meet through work, school, mutual friends.
But what’s most interesting to me is when people just meet in life, just randomly.
You know, I have a friend, he got married, I asked him like “Hey, uh, where’d you meet your wife?” He was like “I was leaving Bed, Bath & Beyond. I was looking for my car - I drive a gray Prius. I saw a different gray Prius, I thought it was mine, I walked up to it, I realized I had the wrong car, but I bumped into Carol, we started talking, that was that”. That’s unbelievable.
Think about all the random factors that had to come together to make this one moment possible - this one moment that changed these two people’s entire lives:
First off, this guy has to live in this particular town. Then he has to get a gray Prius. Then he has to need to go to Bed, Bath & Beyond. Then he has to go to that particular Bed, Bath & Beyond. Then there has to be another guy who also lives in town, also drives a gray Prius, also needs to go to Bed, Bath & Beyond, also goes to that particular Bed, Bath & Beyond at around the same time. Then they have to both park somewhat near each other, my friend has to leave before the other guy leaves, see the wrong Prius, think it’s his, walk up to it. Then the woman, Carol, needs to be near the wrong gray Prius for a million other random reasons. They bump into each other, they start talking, their entire lives are changed.
That’s the most amazing and terrifying thing about life.
It is, cause the amazing thing is that at any moment, any one of us can have that moment that totally changes our lives. You could be leaving the show tonight, bump into someone… it could change your life. You don’t know, that could happen.
The terrifying thing is… what if we’re all supposed to be at Bed Bath & Beyond right now?
I try to articulate to the students how empty and frustrating it is for a reader to invest their time and attention in something that they feel that the agenda is basically to show you that the writer’s clever…
- David Foster Wallace via blankonblank
Late to the party, but: I enjoyed hearing some insights into UCB’s economics on the Funny or Die podcast.
People will kill you over time, and how they’ll kill you is with tiny, harmless phrases, like “be realistic.
I read an article many years ago about kids who, for whatever reason, see the world as crazy - they could have crazy parents, an abusive priest, some other awful circumstance. Some kids will blame themselves. They’ll say, ‘I know the priest is good. He’s a man of God. So what he’s doing is good, and I must be wrong.’ But the other child, the Absurd Child, will say, ‘No, I’m not crazy. The world is fucking nuts. My parents are insane. That priest is crazy.’ And that’s the beginning of the comic perspective.
You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should’ve behaved better.
The worst thing to call somebody is crazy. It’s dismissive. “I don’t understand this person. So they’re crazy.” That’s bullshit. These people are not crazy. They’re strong people. Maybe their environment is a little sick.
If I had a soapbox — which I’d build myself — I’d use it to encourage people to make things with their hands or to get outside and walk in a park, to experience the world in ways that don’t involve screens.